August 2011 Archives - Emotional Affair Journey

Discussion: Negative Feelings Towards the Cheating Spouse

Posted on 31. Aug, 2011 by Doug.

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Good Wednesday! When infidelity strikes your marriage and you are struggling with forgiving, trusting and healing (among other things), it can be very easy to forget the things that once drew you and your cheating spouse together. Looking for anything positive in your relationship during this crisis will be a challenge at first, and it [...]

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Knowing the Affair is NOT Your Fault

Posted on 29. Aug, 2011 by Linda.

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Sadly, many (if not most) betrayed spouses blame themselves for their spouse’s affair. I know I did at first. It took me a long time to understand that Doug’s emotional affair was not my fault and that he was solely responsible for his actions. Sure there were mistakes that I had made throughout our marriage [...]

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Surviving Infidelity: Is it Worthwhile to Try?

Posted on 25. Aug, 2011 by Doug.

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I was mentoring a betrayed spouse the other day and the person asked me if it was worth the effort of working things out or was it time to just give up after her husband’s emotional affair. That’s a very tough question and there certainly isn’t any one answer that fits every situation. Since the [...]

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Discussion: Why Won’t the Cheaters Do What You Need Them To Do?

Posted on 24. Aug, 2011 by Doug.

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Happy Wednesday! This week’s discussion is going to be geared towards the cheating spouse. One of our readers suggested that it would be helpful for any betrayers who read this site to share their experiences. Specifically as it pertains to the cheating spouse not doing the things that the betrayed spouse wants or needs them [...]

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Preventing an Emotional Affair Through Boundaries and Knowledge

Posted on 22. Aug, 2011 by Linda.

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Since Doug’s emotional affair I find myself constantly studying and clueing into the people and their interactions. Whenever we are at a public place, restaurant, concert, bar, etc., or even at my school, I observe the behaviors of both males and females. Before Doug’s emotional affair I really wouldn’t have paid much attention to other [...]

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The Divorce is Almost Final

Posted on 18. Aug, 2011 by Doug.

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I hope that the title of this post didn’t alarm any of our readers. Linda and I are not getting a divorce – far from it – but her brother is. In fact it should be final at the beginning of next month. For our newer readers who may not know, Linda’s brother, Jeff, had [...]

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Discussion: Revenge After the Affair

Posted on 17. Aug, 2011 by Doug.

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This week we’re going to discuss revenge after an affair. As our friends Susie and Otto Collins state, “Revenge is sometimes said to be sweet. If you’re dealing with the anger, outrage and hurt that can occur after your partner had an affair, you may be craving that purported “sweetness.” In fact, the idea of [...]

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Welcome to Our Journey From an Emotional Affair!

Posted on 16. Aug, 2011 by Doug.

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The purpose of this blog is to share our story in the hopes that it will help those that are suffering, or have suffered from an emotional affair – or any type of affair for that matter. We will also present tips and resources that we have utilized on our journey that have been highly [...]

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Why It’s Important to Know if Your Spouse is Cheating

Posted on 15. Aug, 2011 by Doug.

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Linda and I had a fun, productive, long weekend together and quite frankly neither one us felt much like putting together a blog post for today. I think we were to the point last night that our mind said one thing, but our bodies said quite another. Frankly, we were both just plain tuckered out [...]

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The Passion Trap

Posted on 11. Aug, 2011 by Linda.

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My summer of reading continues as I’m currently engrossed in a book that was recommended by a reader called “The Passion Trap” by Dean C. Delis. I found the premise of the book interesting because it discusses the imbalance that often occurs in relationships. I had read about the imbalance in many of the other [...]