July 2011 Archives - Emotional Affair Journey

A Staind Emotional Affair Trigger

Posted on 28. Jul, 2011 by Doug.

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The other day I was cutting the grass and while doing so, was listening to a rock band called Staind on my I-Pod. I love music and I tend to gravitate to the classic, modern and alternative rock genres. In case you don’t know, Staind is a band that performs a mixture of hard rock [...]

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Discussion: What is the Perfect Marriage?

Posted on 27. Jul, 2011 by Linda.

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Once again it’s discussion Wednesday! I often wonder what does a good, successful marriage look like. I know that during the time I had just found out about Doug’s emotional affair I looked around at our friends, neighbors and acquaintances who I believed had okay marriages and felt that our marriage was similar – or [...]

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A Reader Shares Her Pain and Hope After Infidelity

Posted on 25. Jul, 2011 by Doug.

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We receive many emails from readers, and recently we received one that really struck a chord with us. This reader shares her touching story of immense pain as the result of infidelity, as well as her hopeful view of the future and her decision to seek happiness and love no matter what. I personally was [...]

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9 Ways to Not Recover From an Affair

Posted on 21. Jul, 2011 by Linda and Doug.

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Over the course of the last year and a half or more, we have written about many different things when it comes to helping you recover from an affair and save your marriage. Today we’re going to change it up a bit, and suggest some things you should NOT do in your own affair recovery [...]

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Discussion: Exposing a Cheater Online

Posted on 20. Jul, 2011 by Doug.

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Happy Wednesday! We were recently made aware of a relatively new site called Cheaterville.com that allows users to publicly shame unfaithful men and women by posting stories of indiscretion, accompanied by names, photographs, and even job titles. The way the site works is that someone will post something about a cheater, it then gets blasted [...]

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A Scream-Free Way to Heal From an Affair

Posted on 18. Jul, 2011 by Linda.

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Last week as I was browsing through the library, I found a newly released book titled “Screamfree Marriage: Calming Down, Growing Up, and Getting Closer” by Hal Edward Runkel, LMFT. Initially I hesitated to pick it up thinking that Doug and I really don’t have a problem with screaming in our marriage. However, after reading [...]

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Moms Say the Darndest Things

Posted on 14. Jul, 2011 by Linda.

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As many of you know, last week we were down in Orlando for a national dance competition that our daughters were participating in. After a few days we then traveled further south to stay for a few days at the beach. We appreciate your patience while we were gone as our condo at the beach [...]

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Discussion: Forgiving Infidelity

Posted on 13. Jul, 2011 by Doug.

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Happy Wednesday! Our discussion this week is going to focus on forgiving infidelity. Whether your spouse has said they’re sorry and asked for your forgiveness or not, you may still struggle with the idea of forgiving their infidelity. Heck, you may not even know at this point what forgiveness means for you, personally. If you [...]

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Backing Off Can Be Powerful

Posted on 11. Jul, 2011 by Linda.

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One thing that I learned after I found out about Doug’s emotional infidelity was the importance of backing off. That is, to not pressure him or continually fire questions at him at every opportunity. Now unfortunately, I didn’t figure this out right away, but as soon as I did I discovered how powerful a tactic [...]

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After the Emotional Affair: I Hate you!

Posted on 07. Jul, 2011 by Linda.

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Believe or not this is totally uncharacteristic of me to have such negative feelings against another human being. Generally, I try to see the good side in everyone. Realistically, I know I hate the emotional affair more than the person I am attacking, but right now I feel that this is a healthy way to [...]