April 2011 Archives - Emotional Affair Journey

Shift Responsibility to the Cheater to Recover From Infidelity

Posted on 28. Apr, 2011 by Linda.

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Many of you who are struggling in your efforts to recover from infidelity are voicing the concern that you are doing all the hard work to repair your marriage, while the cheater is contributing very little. You are confused as to why, since it was the cheater who caused all of these problems, yet [...]

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Discussion: Finding Strength After the Affair

Posted on 27. Apr, 2011 by Doug.

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Good Wednesday! I was out cutting the grass in between thunderstorms yesterday afternoon, and while doing so I was trying to come up with a topic for our weekly discussion. I wanted to keep it in a positive mode like the one we had recently on success stories after the affair, and one indeed came [...]

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The Trauma After Emotional Adultery

Posted on 26. Apr, 2011 by Linda.

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Last week we had the unique opportunity to interview Gary and Mona Shriver who are the authors of the book “Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity.” Their book contains so much information on how to heal from infidelity. The book is so special because it discusses their own struggle with healing from infidelity within [...]

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Can the Cheater do What’s Necessary to Heal From the Affair?

Posted on 25. Apr, 2011 by Linda.

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Last week we had the unique opportunity to talk with two couples considered to be experts in infidelity and relationships. As a result of our discussions, Doug came up with a post about mistakes that he made after the affair in regards to rebuilding trust. I agree with every mistake that he made and commented [...]

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A Cheater’s Mistakes After the Emotional Affair

Posted on 21. Apr, 2011 by Doug.

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Today we spent a few hours doing some interviews with relationship coaches Otto and Susie Collins and infidelity experts Gary and Mona Shriver that will be a part of the package for our soon-to-be-released book on rebuilding trust after an affair, and I was overwhelmed by the fantastic information that we discussed. During each [...]

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Discussion: How Important is it to Understand Why?

Posted on 20. Apr, 2011 by Doug.

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Good Wednesday! Yesterday we held some interviews with some wonderful infidelity experts that will be a part of our book on trust, and one of them mentioned that it is vitally important to understand WHY the affair happened. Cheating spouses included! You may not want (or need) to know the sordid details of the affair [...]

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My ‘Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda’ List – Revisted

Posted on 19. Apr, 2011 by Doug.

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This week Linda is on Spring break. Since our kids are not and I work from home, then it is officially my Spring break as well. Therefore, we are going to be taking some time to spend together (which no doubt will consist of some working around the house) and relax a bit. Today we [...]

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Who am I?

Posted on 18. Apr, 2011 by Linda.

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Last week for the Affair Recovery Group we did a session on obsessing about the other person. I admit I am still struggling with this and am often frustrated that I can’t stop. I was not sure why this was still an issue until therapist Jeff Murrah provided some insight that really made me [...]

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More Mistakes Made After Infidelity

Posted on 14. Apr, 2011 by Linda.

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Just about a year ago I wrote a post entitled “Dealing With Infidelity: My Top 9 Mistakes.” Much has happened in the almost year that I wrote that, and I wanted to revisit this post to update it and add to my list. As you well know, nothing prepares us in advance as to [...]

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Discussion: What Fulfillment is Received From an Emotional Affair?

Posted on 13. Apr, 2011 by Doug.

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Good Wednesday! In an emotional affair, the intimacy that rightfully belongs in your marriage is evaporating, or has already disappeared altogether. Your spouse and the other person are sharing their deepest, innermost thoughts and feelings with each other, which is bound to create a strong emotional connection. Maybe deep down, there is some level of [...]