March 2011 Archives - Emotional Affair Journey

Easy Ways to Become ‘Exciting Roommates’

Posted on 31. Mar, 2011 by Linda.

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Last Saturday night Doug and I had a very exciting evening. Our daughters were at a party so we did the grocery shopping, picked up some food to cook when we got home, and then watched a movie on pay-per-view. Yeah I know, you’re thinking that sounds boring as hell. Truth is, it may not [...]

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Discussion: Your Perceptions of the OP

Posted on 30. Mar, 2011 by Doug.

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Good Wednesday to everyone! Our post from the other day spoke of my perceptions of the other woman and how they changed from prior to the emotional affair until now. We’re going to continue that discussion a bit here today. Our topic centers around your perceptions of your spouse’s affair partner. What are your perceptions [...]

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Can You Invest 15 Minutes on Your Marriage?

Posted on 29. Mar, 2011 by Linda.

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So how long does it take to improve a marriage? Many of the marriage resources out there seem to subscribe to the theory that you need an hour or more a day – and then some. But with the busy lives that Doug and I lead, finding an hour a day sometimes seems impossible. [...]

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Perceptions of the OP Over Time

Posted on 28. Mar, 2011 by Doug.

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A week or so ago, one of our readers posted a comment where he asked me to list things I thought I knew about Tanya (the OW). How I felt about her in the “affair fog” and facts (character, her history) that I learned about her along the way. The reader also asked me [...]

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We Were Just Like Roommates During the Emotional Affair

Posted on 24. Mar, 2011 by Linda.

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When the emotional affair is revealed and you began to have the conversation about how it could have happened, I bet you heard many of the same stupid things that I heard: “I love you, but I am not in love with you.” “We have nothing in common any more.” Or “We have been [...]

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Discussion: Rebuilding Trust and Honesty

Posted on 23. Mar, 2011 by Doug.

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Good Wednesday to everyone! In an affair the cheating spouse almost always lies in order to carry on the infidelity. They told either deliberate lies, or lies by omission, or a combination of the two. As you now try to recover from the affair and save your marriage, the question of whether or not your [...]

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Ending an Emotional Affair is Like Quitting Cigars

Posted on 22. Mar, 2011 by Doug.

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I have to confess that I’m addicted. To cigars that is. When I take a break from work through out the day, or if I need to gather my thoughts, I’ll go outside and take a few puffs on a cigar. It relaxes and distracts me to the point where I can get back [...]

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Talking About the Emotional Affair Still Stirs Up Past Pain

Posted on 21. Mar, 2011 by Linda.

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Every week, Doug, Jeff Murrah and I engage in a discussion for our Affair Recovery Group about a particular issue concerning affair recovery. Each session has been so helpful and informative, and I feel I have gained so much insight to the point that it has helped my recovery tremendously. However, as enlightening as [...]

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Affair Recovery Survey Results

Posted on 17. Mar, 2011 by Doug.

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We wanted to share with you the results of our recent survey. We had a tremendous response and we greatly appreciate those who took the time to give us their two cents. We thought the results were somewhat interesting and give a pretty good indication of where most of you are struggling in your affair [...]

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Discussion: Dealing With Obsessive Thoughts After the Affair

Posted on 16. Mar, 2011 by Doug.

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Hello Everyone! It’s time for our weekly discussion. Here goes… We’ve discussed negative thoughts before, but today we wanted to delve into the world of obsessive thoughts. The mind is a powerful thing. Unfortunately, after the affair the mind can manipulate your thinking to the point that you can obsess about your spouse’s affair and/or [...]