February 2011 Archives - Emotional Affair Journey

Questions to Ask a Therapist

Posted on 28. Feb, 2011 by Linda.

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You may recall that back in December I started to see a therapist as I had been experiencing some issues that I felt were affecting my healing from infidelity, and thought it might be helpful to seek some professional guidance. I’ve also noticed that many of you who email or make comments have mentioned that [...]

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My Process for Forgiving the Emotional Affair

Posted on 24. Feb, 2011 by Linda.

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Recently, Doug and I recorded a session for the Affair Recovery Group where we wrapped up the topic of forgiveness after the affair by sharing some of our own experiences and opinions with respect to this very important topic. A question came up where I felt compelled to explain my process that I went [...]

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Discussion: What is Your Support Group After the Affair?

Posted on 23. Feb, 2011 by Doug.

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Hello Everyone! Friends and family can be a great source of support after the affair, but you do have to be careful. Often times well-meaning relatives or friends, who think they have your best interests in mind, end up making a bad situation even worse. These individuals can take sides and can try to force [...]

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Obstacles to Affair Recovery

Posted on 22. Feb, 2011 by Doug.

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We recently purchased the book “First Aid for the Betrayed” by Richard Alan, and the book is somewhat unique in that it describes the pain, emotions and issues in affair recovery from a man’s perspective. One of the sections that we found to be informative was that about the personal issues and obstacles to affair [...]

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Our Own Emotional Affair

Posted on 21. Feb, 2011 by Linda.

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Lately I have been putting much thought into my long journey to forgiveness after Doug’s emotional affair, and trying to figure out why it was so difficult to reach. As a result, I began reconstructing our affair recovery and analyzing each step. It is ironic how I can now remember the details and the activities [...]

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3 Reasons To Not Forgive Too Early After the Affair

Posted on 17. Feb, 2011 by Linda.

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Forgiveness after the affair is essential to the healing process for both the betrayed spouse and the cheating spouse. However, it is also just as essential that you do not forgive too soon. It took me well over a year after Doug’s emotional affair to completely forgive him. Here are three reasons why you shouldn’t [...]

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Discussion: How Do You Get the Cheating Spouse Out of the Affair Fog?

Posted on 16. Feb, 2011 by Doug.

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Hello Everyone! We’ve heard many stories lately of cheating spouses who are saying things and acting in ways that are totally different from the way they normally talk and act. What has happened to the person you once knew? Obviously, they are still living an illusion and are stuck in the “affair fog.” Without question, [...]

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Cheaters Play By Their Own Rules During an Emotional Affair

Posted on 15. Feb, 2011 by Linda.

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During one of our recent Affair Recovery Group sessions we discussed how the cheaters have their own story and play by their own rules. They do not act in ways that would be categorized as typical human behavior. I believe they feel very little guilt and do not have much concern for the implications of [...]

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Reconnect With Your Spouse to Find True Love

Posted on 14. Feb, 2011 by Doug.

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Since today is Valentines Day, a day meant for love and lovers, we naturally wanted to write something about love. But to those who are trying to recover from an affair, Valentines Day can be a very tough day indeed. Therefore, we wanted to share a passage from Mort Fertel’s book, “Marriage Fitness,” that addresses [...]

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Only You Can Make You Happy

Posted on 10. Feb, 2011 by Linda.

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A fatal flaw, both in marriages and in life in general, is that many people have this illusion that another person can supply them with happiness. In fact, the troubles in your marriage may or may not be due to dissatisfaction in your life. However, if you feel that there is the slightest possibility that [...]