October 2010 Archives - Emotional Affair Journey

How to Get Your Spouse to Change

Posted on 29. Oct, 2010 by Doug.

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Many of our recent posts have centered on working on your marriage after the affair using “Tough Love” and by backing off and not working so hard on the relationship. Relationship expert and creator of Marriage Fitness, Mort Fertel has a really good perspective with respect to trying to get your spouse to change, and [...]

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My Struggles After the Emotional Affair

Posted on 28. Oct, 2010 by Linda.

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Our weekly discussion topic posted yesterday asked you what your biggest struggles were after the affair. I certainly wanted to add my two cents, but I tend to get a little long winded and decided to post it instead. So… What has been my biggest struggle after Doug’s emotional affair? Firstly, it is trying to [...]

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Discussion: What Are Your Greatest Struggles After the Affair?

Posted on 27. Oct, 2010 by Doug.

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Hello everyone! Getting over an affair is a struggle. It’s a struggle with respect to how you approach the wayward spouse, and it’s a struggle with respect to how you approach and manage your emotions. Our discussion for this week centers on your struggles…What are your greatest struggles at the moment with respect to the [...]

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8 Ways to Protect Your Marriage from Infidelity

Posted on 26. Oct, 2010 by Linda.

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No marriage is affair proof. We are all at risk of losing our focus and being swept into an emotional affair or perhaps even sexual infidelity. But you can do several things to safeguard your marriage. Here are eight ways to do so according to James C. Dobson, author of “Love Must be Tough:” 1. [...]

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After the Affair: Tough Love Brings Subtle Changes

Posted on 25. Oct, 2010 by Linda.

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I’ve been reading the book “Love Must be Tough” by James C. Dobson primarily because I’ve been noticing many comments where our readers are frustrated by the actions of their cheating spouse. Not just with their actions of having an emotional affair or physical affair itself, but with their actions after the affair. The denials, [...]

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Marriage Makeover: Stop Working on the Relationship

Posted on 22. Oct, 2010 by Doug.

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Recently we were asked to review “Infidelity Recovery: Marriage Makeover” by Dr. Robert Huizenga, and in the introductory section there was a story about a couple that he was counseling and they were having a terrible time after the husband had an affair. The couple had resigned themselves to “work on the relationship,” but for [...]

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Linda’s Interview about Confrontation After the Emotional Affair

Posted on 21. Oct, 2010 by Doug.

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A couple of weeks ago Linda was involved in a webinar with Dr. Robert Huizenga, author of “Break Free From the Affair.” Linda was interviewed about her opinions on confronting the other person. In her case she chose not to confront Tanya, and in the interview she explains why. Right click the link for the [...]

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Discussion: What Will You Do to Make Them Stay?

Posted on 20. Oct, 2010 by Doug.

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Hello everyone! If your spouse says they no longer love you, and you feel more like enemies than friends, what chance is there for turning the relationship around and restoring the love? (Dr. Frank Gunzburg say’s the love may NOT really be dead.) Our discussion for this week centers on these questions…What if your spouse [...]

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32 Questions to Ask Yourself if in a Marital Affair

Posted on 19. Oct, 2010 by Linda.

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When Doug was going through his emotional affair, it was pretty safe to say that he wasn’t thinking logically. I often wonder how things may have been different if he had been. I was thinking about this the other day and came up with some questions (I counted 32 of them) the cheating spouse may [...]

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The Pink Fluffy Bathrobe

Posted on 18. Oct, 2010 by Linda.

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When I found out that Doug had fallen out of love with me and found someone else who was “perfect” for him, I set out to clean house on myself. I definitely took the blame, and thought I needed to make a lot of changes to save my marriage. Obviously, I wasn’t thinking clearly and [...]