Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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If your spouse cheated on you, it’s a natural urge for most people to explode (usually verbally, but in many cases physically), especially in the very early stages immediately after you find out about the affair. This anger can be useful to the injured person, but there comes a time when expressing your angry feelings [...]
A lot of people refer to the day you discover your spouse’s affair. Sometimes it is referred to as D-Day or Armageddon or something such as that to describe how your world gets turned upside down, and it’s so alien from what it once was. During this time it is so common to feel completely [...]
I came across the following piece the other day quite by accident, but I thought that it was excellent, and wanted to share it with you all. It’s called “The Awakening” by Virginia Marie Swift. Virginia is a writer who has had a lot of experience with being wounded. She was sexually abused by her [...]
Some of you may have noticed that there were no posts or anything on the site today. Thanks to the wonders of technology, everything vanished for no reason! Also thanks to the wonders of technology, our wonderful host, Hostgator helped me to repair it. Thank you! Today’s post is below. My stroke is over now! [...]
Our open discussion yesterday centered around the topic of self-esteem. There were some very heart-felt responses in the comment section from both the cheating spouse and the victim of marital affairs. We also received many emails along the same lines. It became very apparent that not only do the victims take a massive blow to [...]
Good Wednesday! A marital affair is devastating on a marriage, but even more so to the victim. Devastating to them both physically and mentally. I know that my self-esteem took a huge hit after the affair. I’ve been able to regain much of it, mainly by reading books and educating myself about affairs and what [...]
Another major thing that we did this past weekend was see our son off to college — away from home — for the first time. I know that Doug is probably feeling the effects of our son leaving more than I, because now he is the only male left in the house. In addition to [...]
This weekend we met up with some of our old college friends and Doug’s fraternity brothers for a enjoyable night out. Some of these guys we haven’t seen in over twenty years. It was fun catching up on everyone’s lives, reliving old antics and feeling twenty again. For me it was especially enjoyable because I [...]
I have realized that neither Doug nor I were completely at fault for our marital mess. I really blame it all on stupidity. We really didn’t know what each other needed. I know that I didn’t take my marriage lightly as that is not my personality. I always put 100% into everything I do whether [...]
Happy Hump Day! As betrayed spouses, we have heard every excuse, lie and rationalization in the book from our cheating spouses about their marital affairs. They tell us they want to move on. They say that they don’t want to talk about it. They say they can’t give the OP up. The list goes on [...]
