Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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Happy Wednesday!
One of the first questions we ask when we found out our spouse has cheated on us is “Why?” It’s a question that probably eats most of all at the betrayed spouse as they try to wrap their minds around it all.
We’ve done a lot of reading on infidelity and there are two [...]
Getting over an affair is not only difficult for the person who was betrayed, but also for the person who had the affair. When you have had an affair, and it ends, you might get a feeling of “withdrawal.” As we have mentioned many times on this blog, being in an affair is a lot [...]
Many of us have struggled with the situation after “D-day” where our spouses have difficulty ending an affair and we didn’t know how to act or how to convince our spouse that saving our marriage was the best choice. In yesterday’s post I discussed the book “Torn Asunder” and highlighted the four phases of an [...]
Many of our recent comments from readers have centered on the problem that their spouses are still in contact with their affair partner, and apparently unwilling to stop. As we have mentioned many times, healing after infidelity cannot occur until all contact has ceased. I can recall firsthand how difficult it was for Doug [...]
Happy Wednesday!
One of the therapeutic philosophies that we subscribe to and preach to others in posts and comments is the aspect of working on YOU in your efforts to heal after the affair. In short, get yourself strong both physically and emotionally and prepare for the rough road ahead. Linda wrote a very [...]
Our long anticipated weekend is over and I feel it is time for some reflection. Before leaving for our trip I was faced with much apprehension. I was nervous about many things-the ability to provide the fun, excitement and companionship that Tanya provided Doug during his affair. I also focused on avoiding triggers because the [...]
Well we had a wonderful long weekend trip and had a great time together. We did however, come to the realization that we can’t quite party like rock stars as we once did, without feeling the effects for a few days after. The weekend did allow us to do some of the things we enjoy [...]
As you may remember, our 25th anniversary was a couple of days ago, and in celebration of that we are taking off for a few days to enjoy some sun, surf, beer and boats. It’s just the two of us alone for 3 whole days. We can’t tell you the last time that has happened!
It [...]
Forgiving infidelity is a topic that comes across our desk quite often. It is a hard thing to do for those of us that have been harmed by an affair. I was listening to an audio recently of an interview with Leslie Karen Sann, who is a counselor, educator and coach about forgiveness, [...]
Good Wednesday to all of you!
We haven’t dealt very much with how an affair effects the children of those involved. The impact can be tremendous not only on young children, but grown-up kids as well. With this subject in mind, we pose the week’s discussion questions:
Do your kids know about the affair? [...]
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