Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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Up until this point in the somewhat brief history of this blog, if you analyze the comments from readers, we have had primarily two types of visitors: the Cheated on and the cheating spouse. Well, we received an excellent comment that we wanted to share to everyone from a very different perspective of [...]
We have written so much about the intoxicating feelings received during an emotional affair, and the pain and recovery of the betrayed spouse. However one area we have neglected to touch on is the effort involved in maintaining an affair. We are talking about the time, the sacrifices and the work that is required to [...]
Good Wednesday!
This week our discussion is centered around trust.
Here are some questions to consider and respond to:
After the affair, will you be able to trust your cheating spouse/partner again? If so, will it be the same as it was prior to the affair? What does your spouse or partner need [...]
A recent comment from one of our readers brought back memories on how difficult it was healing from infidelity and continuing to live day to day as if everything was fine while my whole world was falling apart around me. I would get so angry knowing that if the circumstances were different–for instance, if my [...]
The hardest part of my dealing with infidelity is not the emotional affair itself but what happened after I started found out. I had a difficult time understanding why Doug didn’t just stop cold turkey and had such a hard time getting back those loving feelings for me. Now knowing the dynamics of affairs, and [...]
We’ve established that marital affairs occur in most cases because one or both partner’s needs are not being met within a relationship. This week’s video is with Dr. Bill & Joyce Harley. Dr. Harley is the author of “His Needs Her Needs-Building an Affair Proof Marriage” and in this video he, his wife [...]
This is a warning, I am a betrayed spouse, and I have never taken the opportunity to engage in an affair so I am strictly speaking from speculation and not from experience. I may offend some of you who have been involved with someone outside your marriage, but I am just voicing my opinion and [...]
After yesterday’s discussion topic I started to think more about why I just didn’t give up and leave after the affair. Initially I stayed because of fear. I didn’t know what I was going to do, where I was to go and what would happen to our children. This situation was something that [...]
Good Wednesday!
Once again we’d like to thank everyone for contributing to our open discussions about affairs. Many of you have such great thoughts and ideas to contribute. It’s really amazing!
This week’s discussion:
With all the pain and heartache that victims of affairs experience, at what point do you give up and [...]
We’ve not delved too deeply into the subject of having sex after an affair. However, one of the best ways we found (in hindsight) to saving a marriage is connecting on an intimate level. In other words—lots of great sex!
For some reason, even when Linda and I were in the darkest days of realization of [...]
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