Infidelity causes intense emotional pain--anger, disbelief, fear, guilt and shame. But an affair doesn't have to mean the end of your marriage.
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We have been receiving many requests to review books and programs as this site gains in popularity, and one of those that has come across our desk is from Mort Fertel and his Marriage Fitness program. Mort Fertel is an authority on the psychology of relationships and has an international reputation for saving marriages. He [...]
M. Gary Neuman, the author of “Emotional Infidelity: How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage and 10 Other Secrets to a Great Relationship” believes that it is very important to keep members of the opposite sex “out of your intimate way” for you to maintain a happy marriage. His ideas subscribe to the theory that the best [...]
This week’s question for our group discussion is an interesting one: How did you handle the affair when you found out, and what could you have done differently, if anything? What were your reactions both physically and emotionally? How did/do you cope? Or… If you were the one in the affair, how did your spouse [...]
Yesterday Linda wrote about how people act differently while they are in affairs and expressed her desire for me to consistently give her what she thinks I gave to Tanya. She was partially correct in that a couple engaged in an affair certainly put forth their best efforts when around the other person. That was [...]
I think often about whether or Doug is putting the same effort and emotions into our relationship as he did with his emotional affair. Though I don’t think the word “effort” is appropriate when it comes to an affair. In fact, I believe that was part of the appeal. Everything was effortless. I’m sure it [...]
Well, it’s video Saturday and we’ve found a good video from Lee H. Baucom, PhD. In the video he says that often when we’re faced with problems in our marriage we think of all the things that we have to do to save our marriage. But what about the things that we should NOT do? [...]
In Something New! Open Discussion: Talk Amongst Yourselves, we asked you guys to spill your guts about what your biggest fears were, and you totally came through. Not everyone would be willing to say what they’re afraid of about marital affairs. But enough of you were brave enough to give us 6 different fears. We [...]
One of the common threads we have noticed from comments to this blog as well as from the emails we receive, is that many of the emotional affairs that exist are being carried out with old boyfriends or girlfriends. We thought that was kind of interesting and decided to do a little research on the [...]
Gonna try something new here at the Emotional Affair Journey. Every Wednesday we’re going to toss a topic out for you and we’ll discuss it in the comments. Now that we have these nifty commenting systems that allow for replies and even cross-posting to Twitter and Facebook, this will be really cool. Plus, it will [...]
In Doug’s post from the other day, he made the comment, “I found it hard to believe at the time that she could change her feelings and actions on a dime like that.” I understand that he was skeptical, however if Doug would not have been involved in an emotional affair, I believe he would [...]
